Updated: Jan 7
I’m a 28 year old woman with 2 little girls. Life is busy, stressful, joyful, and hard all in the same breath. I sometimes feel lost and lose my sense of identity. The new year approached all too soon, and I thought… Was 2019 what I wanted it to be? After much thought I recognized goals I want to work on for 2020 and beyond. Some I have tried and changed my life and some I want to work better at. Here are some ideas to get the most out of your life.
1. Love Your Body:
I look at photos of myself when I was in junior high and high school. I was SO skinny. I get teary looking at those pictures, because I honestly believed I was fat. A lot of it had to do with how the people around me felt about themselves. It affected me too, It ruined my self-esteem. I remember feeling so uncomfortable in my own skin.
Guess what ladies and gents… your body isn’t the same like it was when you were in high school. It probably will never be again. Focus on being healthy and loving your body. Nothing wrong with being an amazing gym rat and eating kale every day! GO YOU! But… if not, stop comparing. Do what makes YOU feel good. Baby step at a time. LOVE YOUR BODY NOW, because before you know it you’ll be looking at pictures of yourself 5 years down the road thinking, “ I looked so great back then, I wasted too many harsh thoughts on myself.”
So WHO CARES if you have a poochy. Who cares if you have stretch marks that could cover the entire continent of Africa. Who cares if your butt hangs off of a seat. LOVE YOUR SELF.
2. You Can’t Make Everyone Happy:
I heard this beautiful quote a few years back and it goes something like this…. “You could be the juiciest, perfectly round, best tasting peach in all the world and someone still doesn’t like peaches. Don’t waste your time and thoughts on people who don’t deserve it. It may be difficult. But there is freedom is understanding that you can’t make everyone like you. You can’t make choices for others, and you definitely can’t make everyone happy.
3. Live Your Life Looking Forward To Something:
Life is hard. We all know that. Everyone goes through things. I have a trick to get through those hard times. Always have something to look forward to. A trip, a date, an event, a gosh dang cheese cake, or a holiday! Or something even smaller! Don’t sit around waiting for things to happen! You aren’t meant to work, come home, go to bed, and then do it all over again till you die! MAKE PLANS and look forward to them!!
No brainer here! But there are some busy bodies out there that can’t hold still! They work work work! Take a break and do something to unwind and escape the norm! I am ESPECIALLY talking to you mommas! Read a book, play a video game, go see a movie, enjoy a hobby, learn a new hobby, check off a bucket list item, THE SKY IS THE LIMIT!
5. Make Your Bed:
I’m serious. This simple task has changed my life. It sets my day off right by changing my mind set, and keeping some part of my house clean and ready for me at night! Try it! Even for a week and let me know what you think!
6. Learn How To Say No:
There is so much power in the word no. You can say it classy. You can be kind. Just say it’s not going to work out for you. No need to explain or justify. You will see so much weight lifted off your shoulders as you live your life how YOU want and not what everyone else wants.
Follow these simple steps and watch how much happier your life will get. It’s may be a lifelong process, but I PROMISE you will see results!